NEW RESEARCH ON THE FEMALE ORGASM
For vulva owners, it’s true that orgasms are harder to attain
during partnered play than it is for penis owners. Hello orgasm gap!
Now the thing about
the orgasm gap is that people, companies, institutions, and professionals are
continuously working hard to close it. Hence why there’s a huge popularity in sex
toys. But wouldn’t it be great to enjoy blissful moments of self-love and partnered play?
Now we’re not saying
that sex toys shouldn’t be incorporated into your couples fun.
But how about we move into a space where two people can merge together and
experience orgasmic euphoria on an equal footing? Perhaps new data that’s
recently emerged can help to close the orgasm gap! Hooray!
NEW DATA ON
THE FEMALE ORGASM
First things first,
what is the orgasm gap? It’s when women tend to orgasm less frequently than
men. Why does it exist? For many, penetration alone rarely, if ever, leads to
orgasms. And this is something that everyone should learn about. In fact, it’s
often clitoral stimulation (with or without
penetration) that can get women to that wonderful sensation of climax.
Not just that, but a
woman’s orgasm also tends to be highly correlated to a number of psychological
and societal factors such as:
·
Body image
·
Sexual assertiveness
·
Sexual shame
·
Sexual pride
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Sexual attitudes (permissiveness, birth control)
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Gender norms
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Double standards
·
Prioritising male sexual pleasure
In contrast, many
men experience orgasms in the realm of physiology. For example, even when
erection issues occur, a man can simply pop a blue pill or use a cock
ring, making them ready to play. Women don’t really have that luxury
when their sexual satisfaction is rooted in psychology.
Luckily, a 2021
study looked at the sociocultural influences on orgasm frequency
and sexual satisfaction in women.
The research looked
at 1043 women (with the median age being 38), using a variety of factors to
determine how sociocultural factors and orgasm frequency is linked to sexual
satisfaction.
Their variables
included:
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Masturbation leading to orgasm
·
Orgasming with a familiar partner
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Orgasming with a new partner
·
The frequency of multiple orgasms
Their findings were
quite fascinating, with the most important key takeaways being:
AN ORGASM ISN’T THE ONLY INDICATION OF
SEXUAL SATISFACTION
For many of the
women, experiencing an orgasm that was accompanied with sex-positivity,
emotional satisfaction, sexual pride, a positive body image, and sexual
assertiveness tended to result in more sexual
satisfaction than those who experienced an orgasm without all of the above. In
other words, it’s an experience, not just an orgasm, that creates sexual
satisfaction.
SEXUAL ASSERTIVENESS AND PRIDE IS THE
BIGGEST INDICATOR OF ORGASM FREQUENCY
In the study, the
more comfortable a woman felt in her own body, the more sexual satisfaction she
experienced. When these women were able to communicate what
they wanted in the bedroom with their partner(s), it made her feel assertive and
powerful, which often led to more orgasms. This was shown to be true whether
she was masturbating alone, or having sex with a new or a familiar partner.
FREQUENCY OF ORGASMS ARE MOST
COORELATED TO SEXUAL SATISFACTION WHEN WITH A FAMILIAR PARTNER
In this case, it
wasn’t about quality but more so, quantity. It was shown that those who engaged
in sex with a familiar partner enjoyed more frequent orgasms, which led to more
sexual satisfaction. The researchers also wanted to clarify that, in this case,
a “familiar partner” wasn’t necessarily someone with whom the subject was in a
long-term relationship with, but could also be a friend with
benefits.
MULTIPLE ORGASMS DON’T ALWAYS PREDICT
SEXUAL SATISFACTION
You may be thinking
that multiple orgasms equal immense sexual
satisfaction. This new research begs to differ. In fact, the study found that
those who experienced one orgasm were just as likely to experience sexual
satisfaction as those who experienced multiple orgasms.
WOMEN WHO ARE MORE SEX-POSITIVE ARE
MORE LIKELY TO ORGASM DURING ONE-NIGHT-STANDS AND LESS LIKELY TO ORGASM WITH A
FAMILIAR PARTNER
Women in the study
who were more sex-positive and who rejected the idea that men’s
sexual pleasure comes first were more likely to orgasm during a
one-night-stand. It also found that these women may just prefer casual
sex as opposed to sex with a familiar partner. This was especially
true when the women were motivated by reasons such as desire for sexual
pleasure and adventure, and women who focused on their own pleasure.
With
this new research, we’ve come to learn that an orgasm isn’t actually the be-all
and end-all, and that there’s actually a lot more to female sexual satisfaction
that simply experiencing climax.
Basically, when a
woman feels comfortable to communicate their sexual needs, feels free and
confident in their body, and has sexual assertiveness and pride, there is a
huge amount of sexual satisfaction to be enjoyed.
It’s simply about
removing shame, stigma, and the notion that men’s sexual satisfaction
is a priority that could lead to women having highly satisfying sex lives and
orgasms.
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