DO YOU HAVE “PENIS ENVY?”
As a term, Penis Envy is quite well-known, and as a concept,
it’s an easy-to-grasp one, as it’s right there on the tin: being envious of a
penis, as in a penis that is not yours. Among men and penis-having individuals,
this is simple enough to understand, as who hasn’t at least wondered about the
ways in which their penises
could be better, stronger,
or perhaps even bigger?
WHERE DID IT COME
FROM?
It may surprise you,
however, to find out that its original meaning wasn’t intended for men and
their desire for a better penis. It was in 1908 that famed psychoanalyst
Sigmund Freud posited that, from a very young age, girls and people who are
assigned female at birth become fixated on the penis, and envious of the fact
that males derive more pleasure from their penises than they do from their
clitorises.
This “phallic stage”
was Freud’s psychosexual development theory in which he claimed that everyone
of all genders (at the time considered as a binary male or female) was fixated
on their penis or their lack of a penis. In females, this would play out in a
daughter’s attachment to their father and desire to have a son, as these would
be as close as a woman would get to having a penis–something they truly desire,
whether they know it or not.
THAT SOUNDS PRETTY
PREPOSTEROUS.
Well, just wait,
because it gets better. Freud also claimed that their envy of phalluses would
cause girls to resent their mothers for birthing them as a female and thus
being “castrated” by their mothers.
BUT DO PEOPLE
REALLY BELIEVE THIS STUFF? STILL?
Nope, not really.
Much of Freud’s work has been debunked or challenged sufficiently enough that
it’s not a leading concept in the field. However, it does work as a metaphor.
Think about it: a male’s position inherently comes with more power and
opportunity when compared with that of most females. To envy a penis, or envy
having one, would perhaps likely be a conflation of being powerful with having
a penis–the feature that physically makes one “a man.”
One of the main
arguments against Freud’s Penis Envy theory is its very rigid and outdated
views of human sexuality, not to mention gender and family configurations. As
it is now, “Penis Envy” would not be considered by a psychoanalyst as even a
real or observable phenomenon as far as Freud’s definition went.
BUT WHAT ABOUT
PENIS ENVY AMONG MEN? THAT HAS TO BE A THING, RIGHT?
Yes, it is. Surely
any man can tell you about some dissatisfaction with their own penis, but research
from as recently as 2017 also backs up this idea. The Archives of
Sexual Behavior surveyed 4000 men, nearly 30 percent of which were unhappy with
their penises while flaccid, and nearly 20 percent were unhappy with how they
looked while erect. About 15 percent were overall dissatisfied with their
penises.
How
this dissatisfaction manifests itself is not clear, however. While there do
exist surgeries for getting a bigger penis, these measures are quite drastic
when it comes to a perception of one’s penis that, most likely, no one else
shares
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